Focusing is a process that helps the child to understand and express their feelings in many different ways. It helps children to have a better sense of who they are and get more confidence.
They manage to communicate better with other children and adults about their feelings, choices and underlying needs. Through Focusing, children will be able to deal with the influences of the outside world and also keep in touch with their own trust and their inner compass.
Focusing is a process of change.
- To build a better relationship with themselves and with others
- More about their feelings and understand them better
- To be less overwhelmed by their emotions
- To concentrate better on what they are doing
- To listen to other children in an empathic way and to solve their conflicts themselves
- How to deal and relate to their life situations
- How to become clear about their boundaries
- To express their feelings, not only in words, but also in many other ways
- To become more confidant and trust themselves
We want to invite you to start learning Focusing for yourself. It takes time to learn and explore the process. The more you are able to stay and be with your own Focusing process the more skilled you will be to support children in their own process.
Areas of Interest:
- Focusing in the family
- Focusing in your work: as a teacher, a therapist/ counselor
- Inner child experience
- Becoming a Children's Focusing trainer
No matter which background or interest you have, we suggest that you start with the basic Focusing training for adults. You might find a course that suits you on the Events page of this site. Or you might be interested in a one-on-one session, available for purchase in our store along with many books in a variety of languages. Focusing is a process of change which requires practice. Slowly, step by step, you can integrate this into your own way of being with children.
Through the process of Focusing you experience
- New ways to be with your own emotions.
- How to stay calm and steady in difficult situations
- In another way to really listen to yourself and others
- A different way to make decisions.
- How to express your needs and set boundaries in your life
Through Children's Focusing you will explore that every age group needs a different language and attunement.
Benefits of learning Children's Focusing:
- You will be able to build a better relationship with children.
- You can learn more about their feelings and understand them better.
- You learn to listen and support them through their own process.
- You learn how to create an environment that supports development and learning.
- You will help children to learn how to become clear about their boundaries.
- You can support them to become more confident and learn to trust themselves.
- You discover the importance of being with the child in an empathic way, instead of solving their problems or conflicts.
- You will learn skills and activities to help children learn how to "symbolize" and express their feelings, not only in words, but also in many other ways
Focusing in the family:
Through the introduction of Focusing, you will build a better relationship with your feelings. It helps you to remain grounded and to find your balance in difficult situations. Through listening, you will be able to understand each other’s needs better and become more confident in yourself as a parent or caregiver. The process of Focusing will change the quality of the connection within the family.
Focusing in your work:
If you are a teacher, a therapist, a counselor or a member of other helping professions, through the introduction of Focusing you will learn how to trust your inner intuition related to children. You will experience through listening how powerful it is to be able to really trust the child’s own process. By training in Focusing, you will learn practical skills about how to integrate Focusing into your work.
Inner child experience:
Through Focusing, you can get a connection with the child within. This experience contributes to self understanding and self care.
Through the years there are many projects and trainings that were developed by local Children's Focusing professionals.
Foundational book: Focusing with Children
Erik Verliefde and Marta Stapert (written in Dutch): De kunst van het luisteren, Communiceren met kinderen op school en thuis.
The translation and publishing in English: Marta Stapert and Erik Verliefde, Focusing with Children.
Translations are also available in Italian, Spanish, Hungarian, Korean, Japanese, Greek, German, Romanian, Hebrew and Polish.
"Helping Children with Focusing: Some Guidelines for Companions" a downloadable booklet by Simon Kilner
Children and Focusing Conferences
This is the complete list and dates of the Children and Focusing Conferences.
There have been 24 years of conferences
1998 Hungary (Salgótarján) “Focusing with children”
2000 Hungary (Salgótarján) “Children’s Inner and Outer Peace”
2002 Canada (Toronto) “Harvesting Wisdom, Planting New Seeds”
2004 Iceland (near Reykjavik) "Bringing Focusing to the Children of the World"
2006 Romania (Cluj Napoca) “Bringing Focusing to Children in Institutions and Education”
2008 Hungary “Focusing: Bringing Safety To The Child’s World”
2010 The Netherlands (Heemskerk) “Sparkling Energy”
2014 Ireland (Portarlington): “Éist, the power of listening for our children
2016 Greece (near Athens): “New Horizons in Children Focusing”
2022 Online Conference: "It takes a Village"
2023 Online Conference: "Moments of Wonder"