Deepening your Relationships

Deepening your Relationships

This course is divided into 4 sessions for four different topics:

1. Your partner is nervous because of a presentation. You can effectively support Him/Her by listening to what’s coming in terms of their emotional reaction to this forthcoming event.
   Listening to your partner in. Focusing way can help to shift the fear, move the process forward and get back the excitement. Model this behaviour, start with yourself, Ask for a short Focusing session...
   Always give an example ! E.g. I'm feeling Sad , angry , helpless, or hopeless,...I’m not feeling myself, can you just give me 15 mins to listen to me ?
2.  When your partner says something difficult, Something hard to hear..
   STOP, PAUSE, create space in your body, and then you can listen, and take on board, appreciate the truth of what your partner has said. Repeat back so they know you got it....Then stand your ground and say what you need to say, what your deepest truth is.
   Then there is a real contact and a real meeting taking place.
   This will give you a chance to stay in connection rather than cutting off and wriggling away.....The fear of being vulnerable, genuine, authentic, as opposed to wearing a mask.
3. What to do if your partner does not want to engage in deepening your relationship? Solo Focusing! Normally we get so caught up in it & it’s always the partners fault ! With Focusing we find that bit that we are responsible for.
4. I miss something in our connection today. I’m longing for something deeper. I can stop, pause, create space and drop inside. Make a conscious effort to connect energetically! Also in the morning, start the day with the Q: What’s stopping me feeling perfect right now ? A short solo Focusing session in bed ! Also Focusing in everyday situations.
5. We only grow through relationships! When I first heard this my ego rebelled. "I can work it out alone ! I’m clever enough ! I might want to teach my partner something now & again, but learn from him/her ?" When I drop down into a very deep level and try to articulate who I am and what I am feeling right now, and you are listening and trying to feel it.....There is a rejoicing about being in this expanded space where deep transformation is happening.You get me and something inside me rejoices !Empathic Listening seems simple, but it takes place from different levels of consciousness.